All initial energy goes to access left brain and only surplus energy goes to access right brain. When we conserve energy through bringing order to the thoughts of left-brain, we have enough energy to access right-brain and it is the right-brain that accesses the unknown, which is 11/12ths of what can be known by man.
Choose your Battles Wisely
Losing energy is losing power, so carefully choose your battles. The majority of battles aren’t worth fighting because the results aren’t worth having. The only thing worth fighting is the illusion that hides clarity of perception. Don’t view anything as a problem, but rather see it as a challenge that potentially holds the gift of power.
The decision to engage in an outer battle is done from a place of inner stillness with no personal agenda. It is a simple law that whatever we send out, comes back. If we intend to harm, we open ourselves to receiving harm. The only time it is appropriate to curtail a plan or bind another is when specifically instructed by Spirit. We won’t be asked to do this unless we are free of personal agendas and not attached to outcome.
The valid battles are always to release the mystery of our beingness, it may only appear to be with another. When faced with a challenge, analyze whether this battle has an underlying lesson that you need to extract. If so, does it need to be fought now? The key is being able to cut through the drama to what is really going on. Then we can determine whether a response is needed. If the reward isn’t worth the output of energy, we don’t enter the battle.
If we haven’t developed enough skill, it would be inappropriate and possibly dangerous to take on certain tyrants. The best choice may be to turn away. Making the decision to engage is like being an ocean surfer: we see which waves are ours and which are not; we don’t ride every wave.
The challenge is seeing behind the appearances of the problems that arise in our life. When we see the lesson that the problem brings, it alters our perception and perception yields power.
Things that Drain Energy
Identifying debilitating patterns that cause energy leaks is crucial. We find these patterns by watching for knee-jerk reactions. Following are some potential problem areas to check.
Relationships that no longer hold a lesson can drain energy so we need to assess which ones are genuinely serving us. We are either expanding or contracting at all times. If someone makes us contract, discern whether he or she has a lesson. If not, release the relationship and move on. If they do have a lesson to offer, the highest choice is to welcome the challenge because if we ignore it, it will manifest in another relationship. Have you noticed repetitive patterns in relationships? The only way to break the pattern is to embrace the insights the challenges yield. Co-dependent relationships cause a huge loss of energy. This is when we are trying to control others or trying to please them. We attempt to control others when we fear change and are desperately trying to make someone fit into our world view. We attempt to please others when we allow their expectations to determine our actions. An example is every time our mother comes over, we work extra hard because the little girl inside wants approval.
Not only do we desire to control others and the environment, but we spend a lot of time trying to ‘relate to’ events and people. For example, if we see a toy in a garage sale, we may say, “I had one of those.” If we hear a song we say, “I wish I could sing beautifully,” or “I can sing better than he can.” This habit reinforces the separatism of the ego.
If we have gained our lessons and set boundaries with difficult people in our lives, and they continue to breach our boundaries, it is appropriate to release these peopleeven bloodline family members. It is okay to choose a new family that vibrates harmoniously with who we are. Others are waiting to play the role of being our mother, father, sibling or grandparent, who will do so from a loving and healthy position.
Everyday items and interactions can adversely interfere with our energy fields and physiology. The following things weaken our auric field and make it permeable by lower-level beings or negative energy:
Alcohol, drugs, nicotine, excessive caffeine
Electric blankets, radio towers and fans
Microwaves, TVs and cellular phones
Sex with a partner who vibrates at a lower energetic level
Unresolved emotional and mental conflicts
Drugs prevent us from feeling pain, but they also prevent us from accessing light. People who use drugs, including dental narcotics and marijuana, have a thick grayish mucous in their etheric body that hangs around the head and over the heart. Heavy drugs can also cause distortions in the mental bodies.
People who have used marijuana a long time or heavy-duty drugs even a few times, have overactive adrenal glands. This pushes them into a constant state of anxiety because the body interprets the spurts of adrenaline as a response to fear. They then use more drugs to calm themselves. Continued drug abuse causes the adrenal system to become dominant, when the goal is to have the pituitary system and the heart center be dominant because that is the natural condition when we are in balance. A fully functioning pituitary gland provides us with visions and insight.
Noise pulls us out of the present moment and pushes us into a state of imbalance. It is essential that we have silence. When we are in a place of silence the heart chakra opens. It also enables us to connect with the primordial earth (a time prior to manmade noises) which is very healing.
Noise is increasing tenfold every 20 years. It has become so insidious that many people aren’t aware that they are constantly bombarded. Take note of your environment and see if you can acquire more silence. Check your refrigerator and the heating system. Are fans running? Does your wristwatch beep? Do you allow the dog to bark constantly? Does your computer beep or talk to you? Does the car signal you with jingles and blares?
Those disconnected from their subpersonalities cannot stand silence. They enter a room or get in the car and immediately turn on the TV, radio, or stereo. They go into the wilderness and take along music, claiming they don’t want to become bored. In actuality, they want a distraction so they don’t have to face the emptiness inside that silence might reveal.
Surprise drains energy. The unexpected and the unknown can pull us out of balance, so we need to approach things with equanimity. When presented with the unexpected, role-play and act “as if” we already know, even when baffled. We merely form a hypothesis stating, “This might be true,” and then we wait. This is a stalling technique to gain the time to center ourselves, see behind the appearances, and discern whether action is needed. This is developing an attitude that enables us to constantly guard our energy so we are less likely to be preyed upon by those who wish to steal it. Everything requires energy, so it is the most sought after commodity in the universe.
We cannot define ourselves by who we have been. We must define ourselves by who we are becoming, and we are becoming masters of light. Consequently, we cannot insult the god and goddess within by saying derogatory things: I am poor at math; I am scared of mice; I am ugly; or I am terrible with managing money. That was yesterday — redefine yourself today. All knowledge is within us. All talents are within us. All beauty. All power. Watch your words and only speak those that reflect who you are. (A good rule is to never follow the words “I am” with anything negative – including the word “sorry.”)
If we are obsessing about the what, why and how of every thought and action, we are indulging ourselves. This bends the energy lines inward and places us in a weakened state. Obsessing about the questions brings the baggage of the past moment into this moment, meaning we aren’t traveling lightly enough to do the powerful work of transformation. For example, if you are traveling 70 mph in bumper-tobumper rush-hour traffic and a truck attempts to sideswipe your car, you jerk the steering wheel to the left and barely squeeze between two automobiles in the fast lane. The few seconds following the incident are critically important. If you fall into self-reflection and say, “Wow, that could have been a serious accident. That man was trying to kill me!” and continue to mull it over, you are losing too much energy. Therefore, you won’t be prepared for the next moment. Twenty seconds later, he does it again. Are you centered and ready to respond masterfully, or are you still shaken and feeling afraid? Which state you are in may determine whether you survive the second attempt.
Self-reflection includes feeling sorry for ourselves: nobody pays any attention to me; my boss doesn’t know how valuable I am; and nobody understands me. The other aspect is giving ourselves labels and comparing ourselves to others. With comparisons, if we say we are less than another, it is worshipping another’s arrogance.
We straighten energy lines by embracing life with awareness in the moment. This causes the energy around our bodies to radiate outward. The self-centered person constantly engaged in self-reflection, bends these energy lines inward. This causes decay and eventual death.
A Master is Self-referring
A master is self-referring for his approval, so he doesn’t react to other’s words or actions. He knows not to expect approval from the majority. Society lives by tradition and world views. In fact, society is a society because of its attachment to those world views. A master has released these views and so society rejects him.
Conditioned Life vs Un-conditioned Life
The “conditioned life” cannot grow beyond certain limits because it is imprisoned by world views and social conditioning. It is better to strive for an “unconditioned life” because it conserves energy. This energy is now available to us and can be used to access the noncognitive information of right brain, which reveals the unknown, and eventually, the unknowable.
The Person Living a Conditioned Life
Has fixed expectations as to what life should be
Anticipates and attempts to determine the future
Is trapped by defending their world view’s validity
Believes their life path is determined by social conditioning. They pretend to search for truth when in actuality they are searching for that which further reinforces their existing beliefs.
Depends on predetermined causes and results
Has a fossilized consciousness that doesn’t flow. Rigid consciousness blocks energy.
Takes a great deal of energy to sustain because it is based on illusion
Accesses reality through world views and social conditioning, so life is full of ruts and habits
The Person Living an Un-conditioned Life
Accepts life moment by moment as it comes, without expectations
Allows the future to come to them, realizing that a planned future is a closed one.
Accepts the validity of all paths
Realizes their life path is determined by working together with the Higher Self. God’s will becomes their will.
Is spontaneous and innovative
Possesses a fluid consciousness that draws in energy by becoming new each moment
Doesn’t require much energy to sustain, therefore, people stay young and rejuvenated
Accesses reality through insights gained from experiences, so life reveals itself anew every moment.
Dealing with Conflicts
From the Book Journey to the Heart of God
If one is walking a path of impeccability, it is imperative to suspend judgment when some seeming offense or disagreement occurs until we have obtained clarity. For example, some acquaintance hurts our feelings, but we realize that words can mislead. We therefore ask, “What did you mean when you said ?” or “Why do you say such and such?” This is not asked in judgment, for no conclusion has been reached, but rather with an attitude of neutrality.
When we have ascertained the true meaning of what was said through feeling the intent behind the words and getting as much clarity as possible, we can proceed. Does it still bring our hackles up or create a knee-jerk reaction? If it does, we need to ask whether it is important enough to resolve with the other person or is it merely one of our buttons’ that were pushed in order for us to examine some event in our own life that is waiting to yield its insights and power.
If it is important, however, it needs to be addressed. Here are some guidelines on how to decide what is important enough to merit confrontation:
When there is hurtful intent or destructiveness;
When it is injurious to the inner child, disrespectful to the sacred world of the inner sage or belittling to the inner nurturer;
When it violates our privacy or our sacred space;
When it violates our mutual agreement or trust or is dishonest in any way;
When it belittles us or suppresses expressing our individuality or causes us to have to be less than we are;
When it attempts to manipulate, control or dominate us;
When it criticizes or accuses us. If it fits into one of the above or a similar scenario, the following approach should be used:
Within our relationships all feelings are valid (meaning we do not criticize someone for feeling a certain way);
All emotions should find a safe place for expression;
Phrases such as “You always”, “You never” and “Why do you?” (when the latter is not a question but a disguised accusation) should be prohibited;
Neither words nor emotions should be used to attack or manipulate;
When someone is in the grip of uncontrollable rage, there should be pre-existing coping mechanisms established. They are to wash their face and hands and engage in strenuous activity (exercise bike, jogging, etc.) to organize their thoughts before expressing them;
Writing letters that are not dispatched is also a productive form of communication where there are rage issues. Feelings must be expressed and a solution proposed by the confronting person. This may have to be done a few times before achieving results. “When you do this, I feel this. Is it possible that in future we can try such and such?”
The appropriate way for the other person to respond is to first make sure they understand. “Are you saying that ?” If they acknowledge that a change in behavior is appropriate, it is advisable to create a backup plan since deep-seated habits are hard to break. “Can we have a secret hand gesture or phrase to remind you when old habits creep in?” or, “Could I pull you aside to remind you?”
If instead the other person starts venting, sit absolutely still and let it run its course until it is spent. Then repeat what you said, always bringing the conversation back to the relevant point. If this does not work, write it out and request a written response within a few days. If this fails to resolve the issue, the four steps of conflict resolution, discussed later in this chapter, are introduced (in writing if needed).
Should the disagreement persist, there are only three choices remaining:
- Evaluate whether what you have in common contributes sufficiently to your life for you to continue to put up with the differences. If the differences are more significant, either sever the relationship or be prepared for ongoing discomfort;
- Flow around the obstacles because the relationship has been determined to be worth saving. Be creative. He embarrasses you in public? Create a private world for your interaction and make as many public appearances as possible alone. It is never a good idea to force round pegs into square holes;
- Change your attitude. Even if you do the damage control suggested in #2 there are still going to be odd times when the offensive behavior will happen. Lift yourself above the situation like the eagle that flies above the world. Envision yourself sitting in an insulating bubble of pinkish purple light, holding your inner child and talking to it during the occurrence. It is never to the benefit of indwelling life to accept the unacceptable. It is also eroding to have many ‘little’ occurrences happen day in and day out. How diligently is the person working on improving him or herself? All these factors must be taken into consideration in coming to a final conclusion. Another helpful tool is to picture enduring this behavior for the next ten years and weigh it against the positive aspects of the relationship.